What To Do When Your Partner Is Jobless
This Is What To Do When Your Partner Is Jobless
Being able to contribute financially to the upkeep of loved ones is a key determinant of a personal sense of fulfillment. Being out of a job most likely will make this almost impossible. This results in a lot of emotional issues that can negatively affect a relationship.
According to the American Psychological Association, there is a connection between joblessness and mental health in many ways such as incomplete psychosocial development, feelings of helplessness brought on by a perceived lack of control and failure to obtain the monetary benefits of work.
Below are some tips that can help in managing this situation;
Support your partner’s efforts at getting a job
Make time out of your busy schedule to assist them with job leads. Putting in a call to your contacts who are potential employers can make all the difference.
Share any positive news with your partner
During job search a simple ‘hello, we got your mail feedback’ from a recruiter can lighten up the mood of a job seeker. Do not hesitate to share any good news with your spouse. However, be careful not to give them unrealistic expectations as the dice can go either way.
Reduce discussions about your job
When your partner asks how your day went, give a simple and short answer. Do not start rambling about how your boss took your team out for dinner at a five-star hotel. This might make your partner feel like life is passing them by and you will end up triggering a sense of worthlessness in them.
Just because your partner is jobless does not mean that you should convert them to a house cleaner or nanny. Still, make time out for your daily house duties.
Help them stay positive
Self-doubt is one’s professional abilities can creep in during periods of unemployment. Make conscious efforts to help your partner maintain a healthy self-image during this period.
Manage your finances as much as you can
This is not the time to have discussions about going on vacation to Dubai or any other exotic location. Instead, make wise financial decisions at this point and try not to complain about it.
Putting it all together
Being involuntarily unemployed can be very difficult. Understanding that this situation can trigger some negative emotional reactions and behavioral changes in your partner will go a long way in keeping the relationship afloat.
This is also a good time to help your partner discover their entrepreneurial interests (if they are int). After all, nine to five isn’t for everyone.